I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the consequences of being the Papa Bull. Yes… That is right, there are some negative consequences of being completely attractive to women and the world in general.
The problems arise when you have done the hard work. You have read the book, followed our twitter feed, read all of our blogs but far, far above and beyond those things you have implemented our advice in your own life.
You have had self control and walked down the hill when every single bone in your body has wanted to run up to her and pour out your heart. You have believed in yourself and not tried to derive value about yourself out of her. You have played the whole relationship slow and made sure the entire time you were being true to who YOU ARE… That guy you have always been!
Obviously you have done far more than I just listed, but those are probably the highlights of your hard work.
Well now she is all about you. AWESOME! But at this point some guys think, well hell yea, that is the point! But let me tell you it isn’t the point of the Papa Bull. We made the Papa Bull to be about far more than getting a woman. We do focus a lot on Women because we know that is the single thing most guys get their self confidence from (and we wanted to flip that)… but it is way more than that (you probably already know that).
Now that you have the girl there are going to be some things you’re going to have to deal with. She is going to throw herself at you and it is going to feel really good. Even if she doesn’t throw herself at you she most likely won’t say no to any of your sexual advances.
That is just one of the unintended consequences of the Papa Bull. Some of you at this point are saying “what the hell are you talking about, what is wrong with her not saying no to anything I want to do?”
The problem is that might not be what you or her are all about. Now that you are either on your way to, or currently are the Papa Bull, YOU HAVE A MASSIVE AMOUNT OF POWER. You hold something like a spell on the girl you have Papa Bulled. A real man is what she needs more than anything deep in her soul and you are a part of the 1% who can give it to her.
So this may be unpopular to say, but I’m the Papa Bull too and I don’t give a damn; Papa Bulls make sure that everything sexually that they do with the women that they date matches both their set of values and the values of the woman they are with.
She is going to be wrapped up in you! The self control bit is going to fall onto your shoulders. Believe me it is hard… And it is even harder when you slowing the roll of your relationship makes her want it all the more! But let me share something with you….
Every girl I dated since I became the Papa Bull would probably still date me today. Why? Because I did what most guys wouldn’t. I didn’t abuse the power I had, and I was willing to have self control and stay true to myself, not just my immediate passions.
Wouldn’t you like to have girls all over the world who, when they think of you, still swoon even though your relationship with them is long gone! Believe me, it is even better when you meet up with one of those lost loves and temporarily rekindle the flame just for kicks.
By all means if you already feel like you have gone too far, or after you read this you trip up in a moment of weakness, don’t get down. The whole point is to trust yourself enough to keep going no matter what happens! Have patience with yourself, and keep walking down the hill.
-MWH